Anger, Uncategorized

Temper Tamer

When I was 17, I had a bad temper.  As long as you didn’t bother me, I was cool.  But as soon as you crossed the line, I went crazy.  Crossing the line meant, stepping on my shoes, bumping into me, pushing me or shoving me. Both my parents were hot heads.  So it was natural for me to over-react to situations.

In high school, I was an average student.  I underperformed and could have earned better grades.

During my senior year, I appeared to be happy.  On the outside, I smiled often but internally, I felt uptight and knotted up.  I hid my problems from everyone.  I did not know that I should have asked for help.

A week before Thanksgiving, my dad died and a lot changed at home. My mom and I were not getting along so homelife fueled my fury.

Anger management was an unknown concept to me.  I wish someone… anyone had told me that I was over-reacting to situations.  I wish someone had told me that there was a better way to resolve conflicts.  If someone you know tries to talk to you about your behavior, please don’t be angry with them.  They are talking to you because they care about you. I encourage you to listen.

One particular day, I was mad as heck at an ex-boyfriend. He cheated on me, and I had decided to teach him a lesson.  Thankfully my cousin stopped me from doing something foolish that would have changed the course of my life forever.  You may not be as lucky as I was, so I want to encourage you to learn to make better choices.

If you are angry, you probably have good reasons to be mad.  However, you MUST find a positive way to sort through and to release your anger.

You have options.

Who do you trust? A coach, parent, counselor, sibling, teacher, mentor, or other family members.  There has to be someone.  If you don’t feel like you can talk to your parent(s), most schools have resources to help you and are waiting for you to ask for help.  In most cases, they won’t know you need help until you ask for it.  Give it a try.

I do want to tell you about my secret coping strategy.  It’s meditation, and it works.  Don’t knock it until you try it.

Meditation involves deep breathing and will help to calm and quiet your mind.  I know it sounds crazy, but it really is a drug-free solution to relieve stress and defuse your anger.

You can meditate anywhere… in the classroom, before an exam, in the cafeteria, during gym, on the bus, before school, or somewhere else you think of. My point is, it works.  Please try it.

If you have a smartphone, below are my three favorite apps.  Insight Timer is the newest one, and it’s FREE.

The Relax & Rest app costs around $2.99. If you need to get your parent/guardian permission before purchasing, please do so.

The Calm app is free, but once you use it, there are options, to buy additional features.  Don’t bother buying the added features, the FREE options are good enough.

For each app, you decide how much time you have to meditate and select the time that is best for you.   The apps will walk you through the process, which is called “guided meditation.”

If you can, try meditating before school.  If that’s not feasible, find a good time, even if it’s only 15 minutes and make it a daily practice. I assure you it will make a difference in your day and your life.

If you have questions or would like help getting started, complete the contact me form and I help you. Perhaps I can create a YouTube video for you…
The point of this post is to offer you healthier options for you to cope with stress and anger.

Unfortunately, we live in unforgiving times. As a youth, bad choices don’t just disappear. They can follow you throughout your life.  I would hate for you to do something bad that will adversely change your life and limit your future options.

I was lucky.  Some of you may not be as lucky as I was. Remember this quote:

Anger doesn’t solve anything,

it builds nothing,

but it can destroy everything.

Any thoughts? Please click here and share your thoughts.  I would love to hear from you. 🙂

TTYL

Ms. T.

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Welcome Teens!

This blog is for YOU!  Yes… you.  Welcome!

I planned to have this site published by August.  Whelp!  Y’all know about plans, so I’m not going to spend time explaining.

The good news is, My Passion For Teens (mp4Teens) is live!

I’m Ms. Tanya. To learn more about me, click on the about me link  If you formally knew me as Ms. Cain and you would rather call me that… it’s okay, I just want to hear from you.

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Write down the answer to the questions below:

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